“In the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.”
Abraham Lincoln
“What you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments but what is woven into the lives of others.”
Thucydides
“Lives are like rivers: eventually they go where they must. Not where we want them to.”
Richard Russo
A service to be cherished.
A service to bring comfort.
A service to be proud of.
I pride myself on composing and delivering a service that honours and does justice to all that your loved one valued and held dear.
What will the meeting be like?
I strive to create a relaxed and comforting environment where you can share your thoughts and feelings freely. The more you feel able to be open and authentic, the easier it will be for me to compose a service that feels right and hits the right notes for you. You are in control and you are central with your wishes driving every decision.
How long does the meeting take?
A meeting typically takes about 1.5 hours. However, I work with what is best for you. A shorter or longer meeting might be better for you, and that’s absolutely fine. I go at your pace. If you need a take a moment or a short break, that’s no problem at all. I take great care to find out where you are at and we move forward together from there.
Do I need to prepare for the meeting?
Your head can feel full and swirling so you don’t need to prepare anything for the meeting. I am there to settle down the thoughts and piece together the fragments. You don’t need to be articulate or a skilled communicator, that is what I’m for. With my attentive listening and carefully considered questions, we will uncover the essence of your loved one and why they mattered so much. Some people do like to think about photos, music, verses and poems beforehand, but you don’t have to.
What if I can’t remember many details?
This is a difficult time to be seeking clarity of thought. Your might be feeling overwhelmed and daunted. Let me do the piecing together, finding the links and weaving together the many strands of your loved one’s life into a captivating and inspiring tribute. I will help you to recall the qualities that made your loved one special. Then vividly and compellingly, I will compose a tribute that will share their impact and the legacy they leave behind.
How will contributors be supported?
I provide ongoing support throughout, ensuring you feel fully informed, comfortable and guided every step of the way. I also support those who would like to speak or perform at the service. I will always be ready to take over if it feels too much on the day, but I have lots of tips and strategies that I will share to give them the very best chance of delivering their speech with confidence.
How do you personalise the ceremony?
I personalise each ceremony by incorporating stories, music, and quotations that resonate with your loved one’s life. I welcome special requests and ideas to ensure the ceremony is a true reflection of your loved one’s personality and the family’s wishes.
How can I reach you for help?
I’m here to assist you. You can phone me, email me, text me, Whatsapp me – whichever you prefer. I can also provide Zoom calls if you have a family member who is far away but would like to be involved. I can also make extra phone calls or visits to family members who are unable to attend the main meeting but wish to be involved. Please feel free to reach out.